- 12-year-old girl: I don't want kids when I grow up.
- Society: You'll change your mind when you get older. You're only 12. You're too young to know what you want.
- 16-year-old girl: I'm pregnant.
- Society: How could you be so stupid? Do you know anything about safe sex? You should be ashamed.
- 20-year-old woman: I'm a single mother with an infant son.
- Society: You should've gone to college first. You need a stable career before you can support a child.
- 33-year-old woman: I'm married and my spouse and I both have stable careers. I have two young daughters now.
- Society: You're not staying home? Who's going to take care of them? You're just going to put them in day care while you work? That's selfish of you. You can't expect to raise decent kids with a full-time job.
- 45-year-old woman: I just had my first child.
- Society: Why would you have a child when you're that old? Do you realize the health risks of being pregnant at your age? When your kid is a teenager you'll be a senior citizen. That's inconsiderate of you.
- 60-year-old woman: I haven't had any children.
- Society: Your life must be so unfulfilling. Is there something wrong with you? Why didn't you want kids? How strange.
I have three boys ages 5 and under. There are many moments where they are utterly delightful, like last week, when Isaac told my sister-in-law that, “My daddy has hair all over.” Or when Elijah put a green washcloth over his chin and cheeks, and proudly declared, “Daddy! I have a beard just like you!” Or when Ben sneaks downstairs in the morning before the other boys do, smiles at me, and says, “Daddy and Ben time.”
But there are also many moments when I have no idea how I’m going to make it until their bedtime. The constant demands, the needs and the fighting are fingernails across the chalkboard every single day.
To Parents of Small Children: Let Me Be the One Who Says It Out Loud
Any parent who denies this is true is a liar (or perhaps in the case of parents who offload the lion’s share of parenting to their spouse, ignorant). And yet in this day and age when people share more about their kids than ever before, 99% of what’s put out there are the happy and cute moments. It paints a selective picture of what parenthood is really like, and it also has the perverse side effect of making other parents feel bad about their own private dark moments.
Google Glass Photographer
Forget about trying to iron out your weaknesses. Don’t even try to get good at stuff you suck at today. All you will become is mediocre or decent (at best) at these things.
Instead focus on getting completely awesome at the stuff you’re already good at.
Strengthen your Strengths
The One-Person Product
I’ve been using Tumblr since 2008 and have always thought it was an extremely well conceived and implemented product. Because of that I’ve always been a bit fascinated with David. Marco’s brief history of the service and its founder is a wonderful glimpse into Tumblr’s early days.
From Google’s perspective, Google is not a social network meant to compete with Facebook. Rather, it’s an identity system that follows you everywhere.
Think about it: what is more valuable? Inane chatter, memes, and baby photos, or every single activity you do online (and increasingly offline)? Google is about unifying all of Google’s services under a single log-in which can be tracked across the Internet on every site that serves Google ads, uses Google sign-in, or utilizes Google analytics.
Ben Thompson, The Tragic Beauty of Google. Emphasis in the original.
You won’t keep control of your time, unless you can say ‘no.’ You can’t let other people set your agenda in life.
Warren Buffett at a conference earlier this week. (via parislemon)
I think the answer is we all need a little help, and the coffee’s a little help with everything — social, energy, don’t know what to do next, don’t know how to start my day, don’t know how to get through this afternoon, don’t know how to stay alert. We want to do a lot of stuff; we’re not in great shape. We didn’t get a good night’s sleep. We’re a little depressed. Coffee solves all these problems in one delightful little cup.
Jerry Seinfeld on drinking coffee
President Obama has watched the blood-dimmed tide drowning the ceremony of innocence, as Yeats wrote, and he has learned how to emotionally connect with Americans in searing moments, as he did from the White House late Friday night after the second bombing suspect was apprehended in Boston.
Unfortunately, he still has not learned how to govern.
How is it that the president won the argument on gun safety with the public and lost the vote in the Senate? It’s because he doesn’t know how to work the system. And it’s clear now that he doesn’t want to learn, or to even hire some clever people who can tell him how to do it or do it for him.
It’s unbelievable that with 90 percent of Americans on his side, he could get only 54 votes in the Senate. It was a glaring example of his weakness in using leverage to get what he wants. No one on Capitol Hill is scared of him.
Say that again: “No one on Capitol Hill is scared of him.”
We’re only a few months into Obama’s second term, and so far he’s failed to avert sequestration, and failed to block a filibuster on establishing near-universal background checks for gun sales. He did manage to win an increase in the top marginal tax rate, but failed to simultaneously extend the payroll tax holiday.
It does seem inevitable that some form of immigration form will pass, but that’s because Congress wants it, not because of pressure from Obama. Indeed, Republican leaders view failure to pass an immigration reform bill this year as an existential threat to their party. Once immigration reform is done, that’ll be it for the Obama domestic record. Nothing else meaningful will get done for the next three and a half years.
Modern presidents are done about 18 months into their second term, but Obama will be done 6 months into his. And any suggestion that he’ll win back the House in 2014 and have a productive final two years is pure fantasy.